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The Joy of JOMO: Finding Happiness in Missing Out

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Ever felt like you’re missing out while everyone else is living their best life?

I get it. But here’s the game-changer: JOMO, the Joy of Missing Out. It’s not about being lazy; it’s about reclaiming your peace and happiness. As someone who’s missed out on plenty but still found joy in stress-free nights, I can attest to its power. Embracing JOMO means prioritising your well-being, cherishing solitude, and saying no to constant hustle. So why read on? Because within these words lies the secret to a life filled with contentment, authenticity, and inner peace.

There’s an age-old acronym that captures the feeling of lost opportunities and missed connections: FOMO. In today’s hyper-connected world, where every social media update seems to scream

“Look at all the fun everyone else is having!”

it’s easy to fall into the FOMO trap. But what if I told you there’s a blissful alternative? Enter JOMO, or the Joy of Missing Out, the unsung hero of our time, here to rescue us from the clutches of comparison and constant social pressure.

I’ve missed out on loads of stuff including awards – but I won a few as well – but I’ve kept going and revelled in the joy of a night with less stress and responsibility!  We’ve missed out on getting a few guests on the podcast – Barak, we’ll keep trying! You’re still on our list!

The list of possibilities that any of us has missed out on could be endless. We may always be asking ourselves: What if? Did I miss a chance at a promotion? Could I have met the love of my life if I went to that party? Would I have produced hit records in Japan if only I tried harder at the guitar? Where does the list end?

Let’s face it FOMO is like that clingy friend who never lets you enjoy the moment. It’s the voice in your head whispering, “You should be doing more. You should be everywhere. You should be everyone.” But guess what? You don’t have to be everywhere all the time. You don’t have to say yes to every invitation or scroll through every Instagram story with envy. That’s where JOMO swoops in like a caped crusader, ready to save the day, and your mental state, from continuous self-doubt.

JOMO versus FOMO

The first step in defeating FOMO and embracing JOMO is reframing how you look at opportunities. When we miss out on something there is often a reason why. We may have missed out on that party and instead used that time to do something productive. Accepting that you cannot do everything asked of you at every moment can help you rationalise feelings of FOMO.

So, what exactly is JOMO, and how do we harness its power? JOMO is the art of embracing the beauty of missing out on the noise and chaos of the world around us. It’s about finding contentment in solitude, enjoying the simple pleasures of life, and cherishing our own company without feeling the need to constantly chase after what everyone else is doing.

Picture this: It’s Friday night, and your friends are all out painting the town red. Meanwhile, you’re curled up on the couch with a good book or perhaps you’re scrolling through some old Humourology podcasts on YouTube or Spotify with a cup of tea, revelling in the quietude of your own company. While your friends may be out there battling the crowds and searching for the next big thing, you’re perfectly content right where you are. That, my friends, is the essence of JOMO.

But let’s not mistake JOMO for laziness or apathy. It’s not about sitting on the sidelines and letting life pass you by. It’s about prioritising your own well-being and happiness, even if it means saying no to certain social engagements or unplugging from the endless stream of notifications once in a while. Embracing JOMO is a surefire way to reduce stress and anxiety. As Milton Berle once said,

“Laughter is an instant vacation.”

Instead of constantly worrying about what you’re missing out on, you can focus on what truly matters to you and cultivate a sense of inner peace.

But perhaps the greatest gift of JOMO is the freedom it affords us to live life on our own terms. By letting go of the pressure to keep up with the Joneses, we can create a life that’s authentic and meaningful to us, free from the shackles of societal expectations.

As Arianna Huffington aptly puts it in her Thrive Global article:

“The essence of life is finding something you really love and then making the daily experience worthwhile.”

Embracing JOMO allows us to prioritise what truly brings us joy and fulfilment, guiding us towards a life rich in authenticity and purpose.

Perhaps the greatest gift of JOMO is the freedom it affords us to live life on our own terms. By letting go of the pressure to keep up with the Joneses, we can create a life that’s authentic and meaningful to us, free from the shackles of societal expectations.

In the realm of unexpected blessings, there’s a wonderfully hokey country song called “Unanswered Prayers” by Garth Brooks. In this heartfelt tune, Brooks croons about the wisdom he gained from unanswered prayers, reminding us that sometimes what we think we want isn’t actually what’s best for us. It’s a sentiment that resonates deeply with the idea of JOMO – the Joy of Missing Out. Just like those prayers that seemingly go unheard, the moments we miss out on could be the universe’s way of guiding us toward something greater. So, let’s raise a toast to the blessings in disguise, to the serendipitous twists and turns that lead us down unexpected paths, and to the beauty of embracing the joy of missing out.

See you next Tuesday.


Paul x

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