It might seem trivial, but the psychological effects of gratitude are anything but small.
As someone who deeply values the power of connection and communication, I make it a point to thank people in meaningful ways. Whether it’s a simple smile, a sincere compliment, or a handwritten note, showing appreciation is more than just good manners—it’s an essential part of human interaction that strengthens bonds, motivates continued effort, and enhances well-being for both the giver and the receiver.
The Personal Touch: Why I Write Handwritten Thank You Cards
One of the ways I show my appreciation is by writing a handwritten thank you card to everyone who appears on the Humourology Podcast. It’s a tradition I hold dear, and one that’s rooted in my understanding of the profound impact that gratitude can have.
In an age where personal mail is a rarity—let alone something handwritten—a thank you card stands out. It’s a small gesture, but it carries weight. There’s something undeniably special about receiving a note that someone took the time to write by hand. It conveys sincerity, care, and respect, qualities that are often lost in the impersonal nature of digital communication.
The quote, “When the world zigs, zag,” by George Lois, encapsulates my approach to gratitude. In a world where most communication is quick, digital, and often impersonal, going the extra mile to express thanks in a more thoughtful way sets you apart. It’s a way to zag when everyone else zigs, and the effect can be lasting.
The Psychology of Being Thanked
The act of thanking someone isn’t just about good manners—it’s a powerful psychological tool. When we are thanked, our brains release dopamine, the “feel-good” neurotransmitter that motivates us to repeat the behaviours that earned us the thanks in the first place. Additionally, oxytocin, often referred to as the “bonding hormone,” is released, fostering a sense of connection and trust between people.
Receiving thanks can boost self-esteem, increase motivation, and strengthen relationships. On the flip side, when gratitude is absent, it can lead to decreased motivation, lower self-worth, and even resentment. No one wants to feel like their efforts go unnoticed, and when they do, it can have a significant negative impact on both the individual and the group dynamic.
As someone who has been on the receiving end of many thanks throughout my career, I can attest to the power of recognition. Even though some may say that awards and recognition don’t matter much, the truth is, they do. They’re a form of gratitude that resonates on a deep psychological level, reinforcing the idea that our efforts are valued and appreciated.
The Value of Gratitude: Insights from Thought Leaders
The importance of gratitude has been highlighted by many thought leaders throughout history. For example, William Arthur Ward once said, “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” This quote reminds us that it’s not enough to feel thankful—we must express it.
John F. Kennedy also emphasised the importance of thanks when he said, “We must find time to stop and thank the people who make a difference in our lives.” Gratitude isn’t just a nice thing to do; it’s a necessary practice that strengthens our connections with others and fosters a positive environment.
Five Top Tips for Expressing Gratitude in Everyday Life
Expressing gratitude doesn’t have to be elaborate or time-consuming. Here are five simple ways to incorporate more thankfulness into your daily routine:
- Handwritten Notes: Take a cue from my playbook and write a handwritten thank you note to someone who has made a difference in your life. It’s personal, meaningful, and memorable.
- Verbal Thanks: Simply saying “thank you” can go a long way. Make it a point to thank people who provide great service, whether it’s the barista at your local coffee shop or a colleague at work.
- Smile: A genuine smile is a universal sign of gratitude. It’s a small gesture, but it can brighten someone’s day and create a positive atmosphere.
- Public Recognition: If someone has gone above and beyond, don’t just thank them privately—recognise their efforts publicly. This could be in a team meeting, on social media, or in any other forum where their contributions can be acknowledged.
- Acts of Kindness: Sometimes, actions speak louder than words. Show your appreciation by doing something kind in return, like buying someone a coffee or offering to help with a task.
Final Thoughts
Gratitude is more than just a polite gesture—it’s a powerful tool that can enhance relationships, boost morale, and create a more positive environment. In a world where personal connections are increasingly rare, taking the time to express thanks in a meaningful way can make all the difference. So, the next time someone does something kind or provides great service, don’t just think “thanks”—say it, show it, and make it count.
After all, when the world zigs, it’s always better to zag.
See you next Tuesday,
Warmest,
Paul x.
